Monday, 2 May 2016

Cat Got Your Tongue?

Hello People,

It's been a while. I wanted to write a Blog based on James 3:8..."Taming The Tongue". Usually, when I am studying the Bible, I like to find out what was happening around the time the book was written. The Book of James was written by James, who was the half-brother of Jesus. At the time that he wrote this, he was encouraging Christians to endure and live BOLD Christian lives.

How serious is the matter of taming the tongue? Well...

James 1:26 - "Those who consider themselves religious and yet do not keep a tight rein on their tongues deceive themselves and their religion is worthless."

So, if you appear to be religious, you attend church all the time and do religious works, yet you complain, you gossip, your tongue is acidic, your works and religion is worthless. It makes all your spiritual stuff useless in God's eyes. You are active in the work of the Lord but your tongue is completely out of control. James is addressing those who are holy, loving and kind but on their jobs, in their families and whatnot, they are gossiping or listening to gossip with a willing ear. They go on murmuring and complaining. Well...whatever they do, it's worthless.

I won't lie. I have said hurtful things to people in the past. I have said words out of pride, I have lied, I have gossiped, I have said words out of anger. But you cannot take those words back. You can seek to restore these relationships through repentance (saying sorry to them) and they forgive you, but once you say words they cannot be taken back. But even the Lord warns us, "Don't use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them."

A Few Tips

1. Rely on God's Strength

With your own efforts, you will fail - "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me" - Philippians 4:13

2. Dedicate your heart and tongue to the Lord DAILY

You will face new conversations every single day. Therefore, acknowledging your need for discernment and God's grace will make you more conscious of your words.

3. Read the Word of God Daily

"All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: that the man of God may be perfect, thoroughly furnished unto all good words." - 2 Timothy 3:16-17

4. Seek Counsel - Ask those around you if your words offend them

Ask those around you if your words affect them. Ask them about how you speak and re-evaluate your words. Try to bare in mind that everything you speak will be taken into account. Matthew 12:36

5. Learn to speak words that will encourage, comfort, inspire and edify.

Ask the Lord to guide you to speak words that will honour Him - "Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how to answer every man."

Do you know that your words reflect what is in your heart? What are you putting and feeding into your spirit? In your effects to control your tongue, focus on whatsoever is true, lovely, honest, just, pure and of good report - think on such things. (Philippians 4:8)

Sunday, 6 March 2016

Isaac and Rebecca - A Love Story

Who doesn't like a good rom-com? I know I do. I love romantic comedies. I love romance overall. So, of course, when I read the story of Isaac and Rebecca...I thought, well, let me just Blog about what I learned about this story. This was meant to be a Valentines Day/February message but...well, a girl gets busy. I had things to do!

This is the story of Isaac and Rebecca.

Genesis 24
Abraham was now very old, and the Lord had blessed him in every way. He said to the senior servant in his household, the one in charge of all that he had, "Put your hand under my thigh. I want you to swear by the Lord, the God of heaven and the God of earth, that you will not get a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I am living, but will go to my country and my own relatives and get a wife for my son, Isaac."

The servant asked him, "What if the woman is unwilling to come back with me to this land? Shall I then take your son back to the country you came from?"

"Make sure that you do not take my son back there," Abraham said. "The Lord, the God of heaven, who brought me out of my father's household and my native land and who spoke to me and promised me on oath saying, "to your offspring, I will give this land" - he will send his angel before you so that you can get a wife for my son from there. If the woman is unwilling to come back with you, then you will be released from this oath of mine. Only do not take my son back there" So the servant put his hand under the thigh of his master Abraham and swore an oath to him concerning this matter.

Then the servant left, taking with him ten of his master's camels loaded with all kinds of goods from his master. He set out for Aram Naharaim and made his way to the town of Nahor. He had camels kneel down near the well outside the town; it was toward evening, the time the women go out to draw water.

Then he prayed, "Lord, God of my master Abraham, make me successful today and show kindness to my master Abraham. See, I am standing beside this spring, and the daughters of the townspeople are coming out to draw water. May it be that when I say to a young woman, 'please let down your jar that I may drink' and she says, 'Drink, and I'll water your camels too' - let her be the one you have chosen for your servant Isaac. By this I will know that you will show kindness to my master."

Before he had finished praying, Rebekah came out with her jar on her shoulder. She was the daughter of Bethuel son of Milka who was the wife of Abraham's brother, Nahor. The woman was very beautiful, a virgin, no man had ever slept with her. She went down to the spring and filled her jar and came up again.

The servant hurried to meet her and said, "Please give me a little water from your jar."

"Drink my lord," she said and wuickly lowered the jar to her hands and gave him a drink.

After she had given him a drink, she said, "I'll draw water for your camels too, until they had enough to drink." So she quickly emptied her jar into the trough, ran back to the well to draw more water and drew enough for all his camels. Without saying a word, the man watched her closely to learn whether or not the Lord had made his journey successful..."


Then, the man bowed down and worshipped the Lord, saying, "Praise be to the Lord, the God of my master Abraham, who has not abandoned his kindness and faithfulness to my master. As for me, the Lord has led me on the journey to the house of my master's relatives."

Phew! That story is pretty long. I had to cut it short. You can read the rest if you wish in Genesis 24. this story, Abraham was an old man and the Bible says that he was in his last years. He wanted a wife for Isaac who was saved. He wanted to sent his servant to find a wife for Isaac and this servant acknowledged God.

He prayed and wanted a sign. He wanted a good wife and he wanted God's direction to find a good wife for Isaac.

Isaac was pretty much older. He is believed to have been around 37 to 40 years of age. Abraham's actions were based on revelation. God promised to make Abraham a great nation and bless the nations through him. It was the WILL of God for Isaac to be married. God MADE marriage. He thrives in marriage.

Genesis 2:18 - " is not good for man to be alone, the Lord shall make him a help meet." 

God saw that it was not good for Adam to be alone so he made for him that which was closest to his heart - he made a woman. God saw the need in Adam's heart.

The servant of Abraham committed his mission to prayer. When he found Rebekah, he thanked the Lord and he worshipped the Lord.

What Can We Learn From Isaac and Rebekah?

  1.  Seek a MATE when it is certain that marriage will achieve God's purpose in our lives - which is family and children - Genesis 1:28 - "Then God blessed them and said, 'be fruitful and multiply. Fill the earth and govern it. Reign over the fish in the sea, the birds in the sky and all the animals that scurry along the ground."
  2. Wait on God's Timing - Yes, I know people hate hearing the whole 'wait on God's timing...' but there's nothing you can do. 
  3. Look in the RIGHT places - Abraham told his servant to not go in the land of the Canaanites. Why was that? Well, the Canaanites represent the 'unsaved' people. The Bible says "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers." Why don't you get involved in the life of the church, find somebody with a heart for God and get involved in the work of God. If you start to like somebody, pray about it and seek God first. God will guide you. But be in the context of friendship, ministry, get to know that person
  4. Seek Godly Qualities - You can date around but it doesn't mean they are the right people. And in your waiting, have you considered your character? Getting marriage is not about your age, it's about your character (Ephesians 5). Are you still selfish? Husbands? Potential husbands? You are supposed to represent Christ. Your decisions will no longer be based on your own merit, but for the betterment of your wives and your children. You are the high priest of the home, the protector of the home and the provider of the home. Strong fathers begin with a strong husband and a strong believer in Christ. Women - are you willing to respect your husband? Respecting him as the provider? As the preacher? Giving him reverence even when he makes mistakes? Are you willing to respect his responsibilities and can you submit? Both of y'all - are you mature enough to submit to one another in the fear of God?
  5. Listen and HEED to the instructions of OLDER and WISER Christians - do not keep the relationship a secret. There is nothing wrong with getting to know people. But keep it public. 
Lastly, you will grow old with the person you will marry. The world may make marriage seem very cumbersome but marriage is a serious step. This is a life partner. If you know it will not be permanent, let that person know sooner and gently and stay friends. Imagine going to heaven and how many people you have to avoid due to the awkwardness.

I also realise that people focus so much on marriage. They make lists about what they want in a mate (which is good, because at least you have standards) but some of these lists are so unrealistic. Why don't you seek first the Kingdom of God because without the character of Christ, you're nothing. Why don't you learn to pray and read the promises of God. Pray for God to change your heart and pray for your future marriage? 

Why don't you just relax and not THINK too much about whether the man you're dating is 'the one'? Every guy that comes along, you wonder if he is the one God has sent for you? Why not just go out, befriend people, both men and women and just CHILL? 

Prayer - Women, why don't you pray. 

Lord, I want in my heart to respect my future husband and honour his leadership. Lord, let my judgement be good, my words to hold weight. Please, let me be a mother that has such an impact on my children and my grandchildren. I believe in You, Lord, for breakthroughs in my fear of commitment and rejection. Lord, you died to make me who I am and who I am meant to be. Father, change me and make me less selfish. Take the treachery out of my heart, let us mean it when we go to your altar and let that be deep within our hearts. Let us mean our vows. Let our love be unconditional. I pray that I lay down my life for that person, to not walk away from that marriage no matter how hard it gets.

In Jesus' Name I pray, Amen?!

Saturday, 2 January 2016

A Broken Heart

I think it s fair to say that all of us reading this have been hurt, one way or another. Or are hurting. Or will be hurt. It is inevitable. Even in the laughter and the smiling you see in people at work, in church or in families and within your friends.

Who hurts?

  • People facing rejection from loved ones - for example, those who were adopted may feel rejection from a young age. They were not loved by their parents and they cannot understand why, so they feel that they have to seek that love from others.
  • Parents - those parents of children who have rejected their counsel and their rules
  • Those facing illnesses (cancer, etc)
  • Those who are going through break-ups - this can be boyfriends, girlfriends, going through a divorce
  • Those who have been looking for jobs for weeks, months, years but can't seem to get through to one
Everybody hurts. Everybody carries his or her own burden of pain. However, you have to know that there is NO physical cure. People cannot shut down the fears. Even the best of friends. Only God can shut down the feelings of loneliness and discontentment and failure. 

Broken Hearts

A broken heart can cause the most excruciating pain in the world. A heartbreak is a wound that is both physical and spiritual. Yes, your friends and family can ease the pain through laughter but the pain somehow seems worse at night, when you're all alone, surrounded by nobody but your own thoughts.

There is the old saying...time heals everything. That is not true. Time only seems to magnify the pain in your heart. If your heart is so open and seem to be wounded even more. But some people are so hard hearted, strong shelled and are too proud and self-centred to allow anybody to make them suffer. There is a cure. 

Sometimes, when I read the Old testament, I find a common thread. It is almost like a romantic story. God pursues His people, they reject Him and turn to less worthy things. Idols. But He keeps loving them anyway. Time after time after time, He does whatever it takes to win them back. If this happened to me, I don't know if I could live. God is long-suffering. He loves His people and it hurts Him to see them in pain. 

The Cure (With Tips)

  1. Stop trying to figure out HOW and WHY you're hurt
I think as humans...we try to figure out why something has happened. We try to fix things. You may be right or wrong but you have to be willing to trust God and His mysteries. My cousin always tells me that one will probably be thanking God about why your heart was broken and why certain things did not work out the way YOU wanted them to. You will find yourself thanking God because He is probably protecting you from something you do not even know about and cannot see. 

1 Peter 4:12-13 - "Dear friends, do not be surprised at the fiery ordeal that has come on you to test you, as though something strange were happening to you. But rejoice inasmuch as you participate in the sufferings of Christ, so that you may be overjoyed when His glory is revealed."

Matthew 11:28-30 - "Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light."

    2.  Remind Yourself - God will not PUT TOO MUCH ON YOU

Just remember that God is NOT behind your pain. He is not disciplining you. Yes, He chastens us but only for a season...and this is not to hurt us. It's sort of like being grounded for doing something wrong. He isn't the author of confusion. God watches over us and He is always on time. He will not allow you to drown in your tears. 

Psalm 30:5 - "For His anger lasts only a moment, but His favour lasts a lifetime. Weeping may last through the night but joy comes with the morning."

   3. Weep & Give It To God

 The disciples (one being Peter) wept and gave their burdens to God. Peter in particular was hurt after denying the Son of God. He felt guilty because of this. Jesus also wept and constantly prayed when he felt that he had too much to bear. I know He was God in flesh, but He was still human. 

Psalm 51:17 - "The sacrifice You desire is a broken spirit. You will not reject a broken and repentant heart, Oh God."

  4. You Will Survive

Life goes on. You can bear so much with God helping you. Joy is rejoicing with the Lord no matter what you go through. You may be feeling rejected and abandoned and weak, but God is still God.
Throughout it all, remember that no weapon formed against you will prosper (Isaiah 54:17).

I don't know what you are going through. But if you feel like you're broken, lonely, discontent, angry...whatever it is, do not forget that you are fearfully and you are wonderfully made. You share God's heart, His character, you were made in His image. He has had his share of a broken heart. I'm sure He feels pain too. Pain and rejection because His people have wondered and left Him. We follow our own rules, our own ways and our own paths without even consulting Him.

Oh and don't forget...hard times do not last forever. 

Romans 8:18 - "I consider that what we suffer at this present time cannot be compared at all with the glory that is going to be revealed to us."

Have a prosperous, blessed and prayerful new year & month.


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