Sunday, 21 May 2017

A Godly Woman

Hi everybody,

I know its been a while (a whole year, to be exact) and I have no excuse other than being busy. Anyway, in honour of Mother's Day just gone, at least in Africa and the USA, I've been studying what it means to be a 'Godly' Woman.

A 'Godly' Woman is a special kind of Woman. This message wouldn't be understood by the world because the world makes mothers out to be just 'mothers'. But the Bible says women were created to be mothers and wives.

The Beginning

In the beginning, God created Adam and we know that AFTER Adam was created, God created EVE for ADAM to desire. A woman, therefore, was created to be a help-meet for the man. So, in any area he LACKS, she meets to HELP him.

I know people nowadays, especially women in the 21st Century, we are so focused on becoming equal to the man. I know the movement of feminism is something that is popular nowadays. We want to take the roles that men have, to be leaders in our homes, to over-take the man. But, I grew up in a home which was very traditional. I don't know the details of my parents' marriage BUT I know my father is the ultimate decision maker and my mother would give her input on certain issues.

Anyway, in the beginning, God created Adam and after that, He created Eve to help Adam fulfil his purpose.

Genesis 2:18 - As women, we were created to be help meets. This is a woman's PURPOSE. So, if you are single (as I am), this is your time to prepare to be a mother, to prepare to be a wife and to work at the goal of being ready to be an available help-meet.

Titus 2:3 gives us guidance as to how women should behave themselves and it reads, 'Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.'

Women are urged to be discreet, to keep their business in their household, to be keepers of the home. Your home represents you as a wife.

I remember, growing up, my parents, especially my mother, would always tell me, 'Chansa, one day you'll be a wife, you have to learn how to take care of your home'. Now that I'm back in Zambia, my mother is even more adamant about this. She would wake me up as early as 5am, I would have to clean the house, cook breakfast for my father, wash the dishes. Needless to say, I used to be super annoyed. I LOVE my sleep, okay? I can pretend to be asleep sometimes, just so that she could leave me alone. I would wake up in a bad mood, I would complain (in my heart of course, not like I can complain to my mother). She would constantly remind me that I would have to do this in my own home. Anyway, don't judge me, I am a changed woman now.

So, reading up on how a Godly Mother/Woman should be in the home, I am so thankful for my mother teaching me (before it's too late). I have realised that she is teaching me and preparing me to be a mother and a wife, which I will one day be. Unfortunately, reading up on today's society, women are told to go out there in the world to further their careers and no seek any validation from men and this has led to higher divorce rates within the church, women are no longer seeking to get married because they have the mentality of 'I can do it all by myself' and 'I don't need a man'. There is also the whole 'men are trash' movement going around on social media, for those of us who pay attention.

What is a Godly Mother? Or Woman

1. A Godly Woman Is IN the HOME. Even if she works (is employed), her first priority is her household. Anything added to that is what she wants.

Proverbs 29:15 - "A rod and a reprimand impart wisdom, but a child left undisciplined disgraces its mother".

Many women seek validation from outside their homes, they leave their children and husbands to find their purpose and neglect their homes. Therefore, although many mothers work and have careers, a Godly MOTHER always puts her family first. Her husband, her children and all that God has given her as a home is always her first priority.

2. A Godly Woman is PEACEFUL

I don't know why, especially Christian women, look up to celebrities such as Kim Kardashian or watch these reality TV shows such as the Real Housewives of Atlanta or whatever which promote nothing but trash. We should, as women, look at women such as our mothers (if you have a good one like I do), biblical examples of women such as Ruth and Esther.

A Godly woman holds her peace in every situation. She is not quick to be angry but she is slow to wrath. She believes that God can fix anything and everything and because of that, she talks to God about it all.

3. A Godly Woman is QUIET and GENTLE
This means as a woman (or even a man, to be honest), do not be disrespectful, do not be aggressive, hostile or cunning.

2 Timothy 2:24 - "And the Lord's servant must not quarrel, instead, he must be kind to everyone, able to teach not resentful"

4. A Godly Woman seeks to SERVE OTHERS
Proverbs 31:15, 20 - "She also rises while it is yet night, and provides food for her household and a portion for her maidservants. She extends her hand to the poor, yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy."

There are many more qualities but I'll leave this with you to research:

A good woman knows that pleasing God is pleasing her husband. A good mother or a good woman attempts to do things God's way rather than listening to the changing views of society.

If you are a woman and you are reading this, be a good woman first. You have to be A GOOD WOMAN BEFORE YOU ARE MARRIED and be content prior to marriage. I have a friend who recently got married. She ALWAYS tells me, be CONTENT before you are married because marriage is a whole different GAME.

Monday, 2 May 2016

Cat Got Your Tongue?

Hello People,

It's been a while. I wanted to write a Blog based on James 3:8..."Taming The Tongue". Usually, when I am studying the Bible, I like to find out what was happening around the time the book was written. The Book of James was written by James, who was the half-brother of Jesus. At the time that he wrote this, he was encouraging Christians to endure and live BOLD Christian lives.

How serious is the matter of taming the tongue? Well...

James 1:26 - "Those who consider themselves religious and yet do not keep a tight rein on their tongues deceive themselves and their religion is worthless."

So, if you appear to be religious, you attend church all the time and do religious works, yet you complain, you gossip, your tongue is acidic, your works and religion is worthless. It makes all your spiritual stuff useless in God's eyes. You are active in the work of the Lord but your tongue is completely out of control. James is addressing those who are holy, loving and kind but on their jobs, in their families and whatnot, they are gossiping or listening to gossip with a willing ear. They go on murmuring and complaining. Well...whatever they do, it's worthless.

I won't lie. I have said hurtful things to people in the past. I have said words out of pride, I have lied, I have gossiped, I have said words out of anger. But you cannot take those words back. You can seek to restore these relationships through repentance (saying sorry to them) and they forgive you, but once you say words they cannot be taken back. But even the Lord warns us, "Don't use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them."

A Few Tips

1. Rely on God's Strength

With your own efforts, you will fail - "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me" - Philippians 4:13

2. Dedicate your heart and tongue to the Lord DAILY

You will face new conversations every single day. Therefore, acknowledging your need for discernment and God's grace will make you more conscious of your words.

3. Read the Word of God Daily

"All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: that the man of God may be perfect, thoroughly furnished unto all good words." - 2 Timothy 3:16-17

4. Seek Counsel - Ask those around you if your words offend them

Ask those around you if your words affect them. Ask them about how you speak and re-evaluate your words. Try to bare in mind that everything you speak will be taken into account. Matthew 12:36

5. Learn to speak words that will encourage, comfort, inspire and edify.

Ask the Lord to guide you to speak words that will honour Him - "Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how to answer every man."

Do you know that your words reflect what is in your heart? What are you putting and feeding into your spirit? In your effects to control your tongue, focus on whatsoever is true, lovely, honest, just, pure and of good report - think on such things. (Philippians 4:8)

Sunday, 6 March 2016

Isaac and Rebecca - A Love Story

Who doesn't like a good rom-com? I know I do. I love romantic comedies. I love romance overall. So, of course, when I read the story of Isaac and Rebecca...I thought, well, let me just Blog about what I learned about this story. This was meant to be a Valentines Day/February message but...well, a girl gets busy. I had things to do!

This is the story of Isaac and Rebecca.

Genesis 24
Abraham was now very old, and the Lord had blessed him in every way. He said to the senior servant in his household, the one in charge of all that he had, "Put your hand under my thigh. I want you to swear by the Lord, the God of heaven and the God of earth, that you will not get a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I am living, but will go to my country and my own relatives and get a wife for my son, Isaac."

The servant asked him, "What if the woman is unwilling to come back with me to this land? Shall I then take your son back to the country you came from?"

"Make sure that you do not take my son back there," Abraham said. "The Lord, the God of heaven, who brought me out of my father's household and my native land and who spoke to me and promised me on oath saying, "to your offspring, I will give this land" - he will send his angel before you so that you can get a wife for my son from there. If the woman is unwilling to come back with you, then you will be released from this oath of mine. Only do not take my son back there" So the servant put his hand under the thigh of his master Abraham and swore an oath to him concerning this matter.

Then the servant left, taking with him ten of his master's camels loaded with all kinds of goods from his master. He set out for Aram Naharaim and made his way to the town of Nahor. He had camels kneel down near the well outside the town; it was toward evening, the time the women go out to draw water.

Then he prayed, "Lord, God of my master Abraham, make me successful today and show kindness to my master Abraham. See, I am standing beside this spring, and the daughters of the townspeople are coming out to draw water. May it be that when I say to a young woman, 'please let down your jar that I may drink' and she says, 'Drink, and I'll water your camels too' - let her be the one you have chosen for your servant Isaac. By this I will know that you will show kindness to my master."

Before he had finished praying, Rebekah came out with her jar on her shoulder. She was the daughter of Bethuel son of Milka who was the wife of Abraham's brother, Nahor. The woman was very beautiful, a virgin, no man had ever slept with her. She went down to the spring and filled her jar and came up again.

The servant hurried to meet her and said, "Please give me a little water from your jar."

"Drink my lord," she said and wuickly lowered the jar to her hands and gave him a drink.

After she had given him a drink, she said, "I'll draw water for your camels too, until they had enough to drink." So she quickly emptied her jar into the trough, ran back to the well to draw more water and drew enough for all his camels. Without saying a word, the man watched her closely to learn whether or not the Lord had made his journey successful..."


Then, the man bowed down and worshipped the Lord, saying, "Praise be to the Lord, the God of my master Abraham, who has not abandoned his kindness and faithfulness to my master. As for me, the Lord has led me on the journey to the house of my master's relatives."

Phew! That story is pretty long. I had to cut it short. You can read the rest if you wish in Genesis 24. this story, Abraham was an old man and the Bible says that he was in his last years. He wanted a wife for Isaac who was saved. He wanted to sent his servant to find a wife for Isaac and this servant acknowledged God.

He prayed and wanted a sign. He wanted a good wife and he wanted God's direction to find a good wife for Isaac.

Isaac was pretty much older. He is believed to have been around 37 to 40 years of age. Abraham's actions were based on revelation. God promised to make Abraham a great nation and bless the nations through him. It was the WILL of God for Isaac to be married. God MADE marriage. He thrives in marriage.

Genesis 2:18 - " is not good for man to be alone, the Lord shall make him a help meet." 

God saw that it was not good for Adam to be alone so he made for him that which was closest to his heart - he made a woman. God saw the need in Adam's heart.

The servant of Abraham committed his mission to prayer. When he found Rebekah, he thanked the Lord and he worshipped the Lord.

What Can We Learn From Isaac and Rebekah?

  1.  Seek a MATE when it is certain that marriage will achieve God's purpose in our lives - which is family and children - Genesis 1:28 - "Then God blessed them and said, 'be fruitful and multiply. Fill the earth and govern it. Reign over the fish in the sea, the birds in the sky and all the animals that scurry along the ground."
  2. Wait on God's Timing - Yes, I know people hate hearing the whole 'wait on God's timing...' but there's nothing you can do. 
  3. Look in the RIGHT places - Abraham told his servant to not go in the land of the Canaanites. Why was that? Well, the Canaanites represent the 'unsaved' people. The Bible says "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers." Why don't you get involved in the life of the church, find somebody with a heart for God and get involved in the work of God. If you start to like somebody, pray about it and seek God first. God will guide you. But be in the context of friendship, ministry, get to know that person
  4. Seek Godly Qualities - You can date around but it doesn't mean they are the right people. And in your waiting, have you considered your character? Getting marriage is not about your age, it's about your character (Ephesians 5). Are you still selfish? Husbands? Potential husbands? You are supposed to represent Christ. Your decisions will no longer be based on your own merit, but for the betterment of your wives and your children. You are the high priest of the home, the protector of the home and the provider of the home. Strong fathers begin with a strong husband and a strong believer in Christ. Women - are you willing to respect your husband? Respecting him as the provider? As the preacher? Giving him reverence even when he makes mistakes? Are you willing to respect his responsibilities and can you submit? Both of y'all - are you mature enough to submit to one another in the fear of God?
  5. Listen and HEED to the instructions of OLDER and WISER Christians - do not keep the relationship a secret. There is nothing wrong with getting to know people. But keep it public. 
Lastly, you will grow old with the person you will marry. The world may make marriage seem very cumbersome but marriage is a serious step. This is a life partner. If you know it will not be permanent, let that person know sooner and gently and stay friends. Imagine going to heaven and how many people you have to avoid due to the awkwardness.

I also realise that people focus so much on marriage. They make lists about what they want in a mate (which is good, because at least you have standards) but some of these lists are so unrealistic. Why don't you seek first the Kingdom of God because without the character of Christ, you're nothing. Why don't you learn to pray and read the promises of God. Pray for God to change your heart and pray for your future marriage? 

Why don't you just relax and not THINK too much about whether the man you're dating is 'the one'? Every guy that comes along, you wonder if he is the one God has sent for you? Why not just go out, befriend people, both men and women and just CHILL? 

Prayer - Women, why don't you pray. 

Lord, I want in my heart to respect my future husband and honour his leadership. Lord, let my judgement be good, my words to hold weight. Please, let me be a mother that has such an impact on my children and my grandchildren. I believe in You, Lord, for breakthroughs in my fear of commitment and rejection. Lord, you died to make me who I am and who I am meant to be. Father, change me and make me less selfish. Take the treachery out of my heart, let us mean it when we go to your altar and let that be deep within our hearts. Let us mean our vows. Let our love be unconditional. I pray that I lay down my life for that person, to not walk away from that marriage no matter how hard it gets.

In Jesus' Name I pray, Amen?!

Saturday, 2 January 2016

A Broken Heart

I think it s fair to say that all of us reading this have been hurt, one way or another. Or are hurting. Or will be hurt. It is inevitable. Even in the laughter and the smiling you see in people at work, in church or in families and within your friends.

Who hurts?

  • People facing rejection from loved ones - for example, those who were adopted may feel rejection from a young age. They were not loved by their parents and they cannot understand why, so they feel that they have to seek that love from others.
  • Parents - those parents of children who have rejected their counsel and their rules
  • Those facing illnesses (cancer, etc)
  • Those who are going through break-ups - this can be boyfriends, girlfriends, going through a divorce
  • Those who have been looking for jobs for weeks, months, years but can't seem to get through to one
Everybody hurts. Everybody carries his or her own burden of pain. However, you have to know that there is NO physical cure. People cannot shut down the fears. Even the best of friends. Only God can shut down the feelings of loneliness and discontentment and failure. 

Broken Hearts

A broken heart can cause the most excruciating pain in the world. A heartbreak is a wound that is both physical and spiritual. Yes, your friends and family can ease the pain through laughter but the pain somehow seems worse at night, when you're all alone, surrounded by nobody but your own thoughts.

There is the old saying...time heals everything. That is not true. Time only seems to magnify the pain in your heart. If your heart is so open and seem to be wounded even more. But some people are so hard hearted, strong shelled and are too proud and self-centred to allow anybody to make them suffer. There is a cure. 

Sometimes, when I read the Old testament, I find a common thread. It is almost like a romantic story. God pursues His people, they reject Him and turn to less worthy things. Idols. But He keeps loving them anyway. Time after time after time, He does whatever it takes to win them back. If this happened to me, I don't know if I could live. God is long-suffering. He loves His people and it hurts Him to see them in pain. 

The Cure (With Tips)

  1. Stop trying to figure out HOW and WHY you're hurt
I think as humans...we try to figure out why something has happened. We try to fix things. You may be right or wrong but you have to be willing to trust God and His mysteries. My cousin always tells me that one will probably be thanking God about why your heart was broken and why certain things did not work out the way YOU wanted them to. You will find yourself thanking God because He is probably protecting you from something you do not even know about and cannot see. 

1 Peter 4:12-13 - "Dear friends, do not be surprised at the fiery ordeal that has come on you to test you, as though something strange were happening to you. But rejoice inasmuch as you participate in the sufferings of Christ, so that you may be overjoyed when His glory is revealed."

Matthew 11:28-30 - "Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light."

    2.  Remind Yourself - God will not PUT TOO MUCH ON YOU

Just remember that God is NOT behind your pain. He is not disciplining you. Yes, He chastens us but only for a season...and this is not to hurt us. It's sort of like being grounded for doing something wrong. He isn't the author of confusion. God watches over us and He is always on time. He will not allow you to drown in your tears. 

Psalm 30:5 - "For His anger lasts only a moment, but His favour lasts a lifetime. Weeping may last through the night but joy comes with the morning."

   3. Weep & Give It To God

 The disciples (one being Peter) wept and gave their burdens to God. Peter in particular was hurt after denying the Son of God. He felt guilty because of this. Jesus also wept and constantly prayed when he felt that he had too much to bear. I know He was God in flesh, but He was still human. 

Psalm 51:17 - "The sacrifice You desire is a broken spirit. You will not reject a broken and repentant heart, Oh God."

  4. You Will Survive

Life goes on. You can bear so much with God helping you. Joy is rejoicing with the Lord no matter what you go through. You may be feeling rejected and abandoned and weak, but God is still God.
Throughout it all, remember that no weapon formed against you will prosper (Isaiah 54:17).

I don't know what you are going through. But if you feel like you're broken, lonely, discontent, angry...whatever it is, do not forget that you are fearfully and you are wonderfully made. You share God's heart, His character, you were made in His image. He has had his share of a broken heart. I'm sure He feels pain too. Pain and rejection because His people have wondered and left Him. We follow our own rules, our own ways and our own paths without even consulting Him.

Oh and don't forget...hard times do not last forever. 

Romans 8:18 - "I consider that what we suffer at this present time cannot be compared at all with the glory that is going to be revealed to us."

Have a prosperous, blessed and prayerful new year & month.


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Tuesday, 1 December 2015

I Feel So Unworthy

I once read about a fact, I know the Bible says not to show favouritism, but he happens to be one of my favourite preachers because his preaching changed my life. The preacher below is David Wilkerson. He once said even though he preached to thousands of people, there are times when he felt very far away from the presence of God. There were times when he had no desire to read the Word and very little desire to pray. He knew he loved the Lord but sometimes, he couldn't seem to touch God for days, or even weeks.

Do you ever feel like others get blessed while you feel like nothing great is happening to you? It seems like God is blessing them and they testify of His Goodness and how He answered their prayers but you just plod along, loving the Lord but not making a difference?

We make a lot of excuses to the Lord sometimes. For example, when a new job opportunity comes but you are afraid to apply because you feel unworthy, under-qualified, lacking skills, unequipped...the list goes on. OR, God is telling you to let go or mend a certain relationship but you feel like you cannot bridge the gap between both of you. OR, it could be your relationships at work and you feel like you cannot make an impact or change because you're just the 'cleaner' or you're 'just the postman'.

YOU are not alone. A lot of people in the Bible felt the same. They felt under-qualified and that they lacked skills.

Let's read the Story of Moses. We all know this story because we read it as kids and there is even a movie about it.

Exodus 3

Now Moses was tending the flock of Jethro, his father-in-law, the priest of Midian, and he led the flock to the far side of the wilderness and came to Horeb, the mountain of God. There, the angel of the Lord appeared to him in flames of fire from within the bush. Moses saw that though the bush was on fire, it did not burn up. So Moses thought, "I will go over and see this strange sight - why does the bush not burn up?"

Clearly Moses was inquisitive.

When the Lord saw that he had gone over to look, God called to him from within the bush, "Moses! Moses!"

And Moses said, "Here I am."

"Do not come any closer," God said. "Take off your sandals, for the place where you are standing is holy ground." Then he said, "I am the God of your father, the God of Abraham, the God of Isaac and the God of Jacob." At this, Moses hid his face, because he was afraid to look at God.

The Lord said, "I have indeed seen the misery of my people in Egypt. I have heard them crying out because of their slave drivers, and I am concerned about their suffering. So I have come down to rescue them from the hand of the Egyptians and to bring them up out of that land into a good and spacious land, a land flowing with milk and honey - the home of the Canaanites, Hittites, Amorites, Perizzites, Hivites and Jebusites. And now the cry of the Israelites has reached me and I have seen the way the Egyptians are oppressing them....

STOP THERE!!! - I can actually imagine Moses saying, Amen, Lord. Ooh, yes. Thank You Lord for answering our prayers and for hearing our cries. Thank You!

...So now, go. I am sending you to Pharoah to bring my people the Israelites out of Egypt."

I am guessing on here Moses was like, "Hold up, Lord...just wait a"

Then the excuses began.

Self Doubt:

But Moses said to God, "Who am I that I should go to Pharoah and bring the Israelites out of Egypt?"
Moses felt unworthy, he doubted himself and the ability that he had to do it. He felt that he had no skills

Fear of Rejection

Moses answered, "What if they do not believe me or listen to me and say, "The Lord did not appear to you."

Moses was afraid of rejection. Well, who isn't afraid of failure. It's hard to stand up in front of people and try something risky when you wonder if you are even really up for it. When faced with that sort of pressure, Moses had to tell God he couldn't do it. But God had a clear message for Moses and for us. God doesn't care about our excuses. He knows our capabilities, and if he does not think we could do it then he would have asked somebody else. Even the fact that he used 'what ifs' made him sound like he was belittling himself. Do you find  yourself doing that? You're scared. But God has not given you the spirit of fear, but of POWER, of LOVE and of a SOUND MIND. A sound mind means one of peace, not of worry or anxiety. And if you are anxious, then pray about it and the peace of God which transcends all human understanding will guard your heart and your mind.

But Moses said, "Pardon your servant Lord, but please send somebody else."
Moses realised he would not win and he had run out of excuses so in the end, he settled for begging.
I really don't blame him. Imagine having to be hated by the Israelites, and then you have a speech impediment, you stutter, you are shy and then having to talk to PHARAOH and convince him to let God's people go? I would be scared too.

The funny thing is, the Lord told Moses to just use the staff he had in his hand.

The Staff

Then the Lord said to him, "What is that in your hand?"
"A staff," he replied
The Lord said, "Throw it to the ground."
Moses threw it to the ground and it became a snake and he ran from it.

You're probably thinking, what is the point of this? Well, after complaining about how he was unworthy, the Lord asked him what he had and all Moses had in his hand was a staff. He probably thought, 'Lord, I am going up against Pharaoh here and you're telling me I should use a measly old STAFF to fight against him?'

The whole point is, God will use the weak to bring about  victory - 1 Corinthians 1:27 - "But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong."

Guess what? It is the same with you! You can compare yourself to others but comparison is the thief of all joy.

The Message

  • Go with what you've got and God will give you what you need
  • Wait on God
  • Comparisons will make you feel like you aren't blessed as much as others are.
  • Pray intentionally
  • When God sees you he does not see the limitations you set for yourself.
One root of envy is ingratitude. We must begin to give thanks for everything that we have received. Let us give thanks to God for the gifts that OTHERS have received. 

God used many others in the Bible.

Abraham and Sarah - God promises Abraham and his wife Sarah that they would one day be parents, even though they were old and barren. They had nothing but God told them their children would be as the number of stars at night. So many that they would not be able to count them.

Jeremiah - At the time that this prophet was born, the people of God were not living according to His Word. So, God called Jeremiah to change the people through him. In fact, he planned this out before Jeremiah was born. Jeremiah was scared, of course, like Moses but his excuse was that he was  too young. He did not think he could speak out against the wickedness, he was only about 20 years of age. God touched Jeremiah's mouth and he spoke boldly against the sin in the land. 

Gideon - After Joshua died, the people of Israel disobeyed God (again).God wanted Gideon to lead the people of Israel against the Midianites but of course, Gideon was afraid. He had an army of 32,000 men but God cut that down to 320 men. Hello? Why would God do that? He used the little that Gideon had to prove that He was God.

So, whatever it is that's bothering you or making you feel unworthy or under-appreciated, just remember how God used all these people. Despite their lack of confidence, God turned them into great prophets. God can do great things in and through you too!

Enjoy the last month of the year.

God bless.

Sunday, 8 November 2015

The Private War of a Saint

Do you have those moments of despair, moments where you feel like God is not near you. I mean, everything was going well. You read your Bible every day, you were growing with God, doors were opening and then all of a sudden you just don't FEEL Him. 

Or, you feel like God no longer loves you and you get tired and worn down by those voices that condemn you. Or that you've hurt God more than enough times and you just don't want to any more. 

Everyone who walks closely with the Lord has gone through seasons of having a heavy heart. Some of us have gone through financial issues, issues with our families, health problems, etc. David (I know I use him a lot), he had great faith, but he grew weary at times due to the burdens that he faced. 
Have you ever been through seasons where nobody, not even a service, a message, a counsellor, can lift your burden. You try to pray, which helps, sometimes, but it does not seem to get you anywhere. It feels like God has abandoned you?

When we are saved, we are made righteous in Christ - Romans 3:22 and even as Christians and as those who seek Christ, we will be tempted and we will go through seasons of heaviness of sin, private issues, pain, problems...possibly everything. All of us as Christians, as the CHURCH, are in a spiritual 'warfare'. You have heard this before. For example, if you look to the Middle East, Christians are persecuted for their faith. In fact, we had the Barnabas Fund talk at our Church about the persecution of Christians in Iraq, Kenya and other places. Places where people are KILLED and made to choose between their faith and their life.

Pastor David Wilkerson, who I truly, deeply love, quite a while ago, he was an American preacher, preached on the persecution of Christians. He said if we truly obey the true mission of Christ to a lost world, we will be marked. He said you will find enemies everywhere. We, as Christians, have a mission and that mission is to tell men who have spent a lifetime believing that they are doing good and that they are achieving something and tell them that it's all filthy rags. 

We know that the one who walks in the Spirit and walks with God will be tempted and will be persecuted. The more spiritual you become the more intense your battles. The Spirit of God will lead you into the wilderness BUT the devil will do the tempting.

Every Christian on earth has probably faced or will face their own private war. The Bible tells us in Ecclesiastes 3:8 - "To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under heaven. A time of war and a time of peace."

I know one Godly Man who suffered his own private war. He was a very charitable man and served God faithfully for years. He worshipped God, he was honest, he loved God's Word so much and even those who hated him knew how righteous he was. But one night, because of lust, he made another woman pregnant. Because he panicked and wanted to cover up his sin, he arranged a hit man to kill the woman's husband. He was later exposed. All his friends forsook him, he cried out because his burden became intolerable. He was ashamed and his guilt became unbearable. His soul was flooded with bitter tears and grief. Day after day, he cried out to God. You know who I am talking about, right? King David. A man after God's own heart suffered his own private war.

Paul told us that there would be a spirit of lust upon the world. We would be enticed. We cannot even think that the holier we are, the more immune we are to falling into the lusts of the flesh. Even if we are faithful to God and pray and study his Word, we will be temped. Look at David, who loved the Lord more than anybody, he was tempted fiercely and he gave in to his lust. 

But some of us have lost a battle against lust and we are in the midst of this private war. We face guilt, fear and confusion every single day. But remember, even in the midst of the war, Jesus is your Victor.

How Do We Overcome the Private War?

Psalm 18:34 - "He trains my hands for batter; he strengthens my arm to draw a bronze bow."
There is no step by step plan to this. God works in mysterious ways.

  1. David Cried Out To The Lord
Psalm 70 - 'Please God, rescue me! Come quickly, Lord and help me. May those who try to kill me be humiliated and put to shame...'
All of us will face burdens and times of heaviness because, I know you don't want to hear this, this will teach us wisdom as soldiers of God's army. He needs us in this war. You are an example to those around you. You are the one who God will use to drive back the enemy. You are the one he wants to teach how to fight.He will use you as an example to strengthen those who are weak in their faith.

    2.   Live or die I will magnify the Lord

We need to set our hearts to magnify the Lord in the midst of our war. That doesn't mean smiling and pretending to be happy, but to glorify Him regardless of what we are going through. It means to stand still in the midst of the storm and to firmly declare in our hearts, 'Lord, I believe in You.'

   3. Cast Yourself On The Mercy of God
If you look at David's testimony, David learned that God would never have allowed his distress to overcome him. By His grace, His problems would not take him down. In every struggle, God is always full of tender mercy to those who are repentant - 'The Lord is merciful and gracious, slow to anger and plenteous in mercy. He will not always chide, neither will he keep his anger forever...'

Please make this your testimony. Look at all your fears,  your distresses, your anxieties and your temptations, and say by faith, "By God's grace, I am not going down. I will not be overwhelmed by these things.'

His grace is sufficient for you!

In every private war you face, keep your eyes and your thoughts fixed on God's mercy and loving kindness which will never fail.


Pastor Wilkerson teaching on 'The Private War of a Saint'

Sunday, 2 August 2015

Pornography & Soul Ties

In a world where under-age sex is seen as 'normal', pre-marital sex is practised and dating without purpose is sought after, it can be difficult to remain strong and have faith and in fact, question your own faith. I've been reading about the implications of pre-marital sex and recreational dating. I have also been listening to a series of sermons, which I will leave down below.

1 Corinthians 6:15 - 20

"Don't you realise that your bodies are actually parts of CHRIST? Should a man take his body, which is part of Christ, and join it to a prostitute? Never! And don't you realise that if a man joins himself to a prostite, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, 'The two are united into one.' But the person who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with him.

Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immoraility is a sin against your own body. Don't you realise that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honour God with your body.'

So, technically, God is telling us, once we got saved, our bodies were not us. The Holy Spirit lives in us so we cannot disobey Him by going against this law. Set boundaries in your relationship (if you are courting). Sex outside marriage is showing that the covenant (the promise we made to God when we got saved) is not that serious. Marriage is a commitment in itself and pre-marital sex breaks that commitment.

What are the implications of pre-marital sex?

  1. Babies are created - as obvious as that is, we create completely messed up generations. We go in and out of marriages where the child has no father, then they end up growing up angry, bitter and full of wrath. They didn't have that BOND with their father so they end up killing, stealing or treating women with a lack of respect.
  2. STDs are more prevalent.
  3. It steals the JOY of courtship - when you are NOT focused on having sex with your boyfriend, this gives you time to connect with him. The fact that you do not set boundaries does not give you that emotional connection. Dating is meant for building trust as the foundation. - Song of Songs 2:7 - "Do not arouse or awaken love until it pleases"
  4. Sex creates soul ties. Soul ties can be created between a mother and a child - it's that emotional and spiritual bond you create with someone you are intimate with (through conversations or whatever). Sex is the highest form of a soul tie you create with somebody.
Some examples of soul ties in the bible:
  • David and Jonathan 
  • Shechem & Dinah - Genesis 34 (Dinah was raped by Shechem)

How To Get Rid of a Soul Tie?
  • Renounce those things that tie you to an ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend - take them out of the house and renounce your former ways. For example, old love letters, text messages,their photos etc. Let it out and confess it to the Lord, allow Him to give you strength.
Proverbs 28:13 - "People who conceal their sins will not prosper, but if they confess them and turn from them, they will receive mercy."

Marriage is a covenant (like I said before) made before the Lord. 

Matthew 19:6 - "Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together."

Malachi 2:13-16 - "Here is another thing you do. You cover the Lord's altar with tears, weeping and groaning because he pays no attention to your offerings and doesn't accept them with pleasure. You cry out, 'why doesn't the Lord accept my worship?'. I'll tell you why! Because the Lord witnessed the vows you and your wife made when you were young. But you have been unfaithful to her, though she remained your faithful partner, the wife of your marriage vows. 

Didn't the Lord make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth. 'For I hate divorce!' says the Lord, the God of Israel. 'To divorce your wife is to overwhelm her with cruelty,' says the Lord of Heaven's Armies. 'So guard your heart; do not be unfaithful to your wife'.

Pornography is a huge problem in today's world. Young people are curious and turning the the internet to learn about sex and relationships. I, for one, know how easily accessible it was when I was younger. I had friends who had laptops from a young age and it was very accessible. Research has found that 39% of boys in England aged between 14 - 17 watch pornography on a regularly basis. Child Line receive an average of 18,000 views a YEAR to its website message board regarding pornography. It's not even a growing epidemic any more, it's AN EPIDEMIC. 

Pornography is basically gratifying your sexual nature OTHER than your wife.

Matthew 5:28 - "But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart."

Porn apparently has the same effects as taking cocaine.

The effects of Pornography
  • Porn KILLS your healthy appetite - deal with it before your marriage. People may view porn due to loneliness or depression
  • It causes the person to see people as objects rather than people - this destroys their emotional connection with their wife or anybody.
  • It does not satisfy - you will always want more
  • It takes the JOY of intimacy out of marriage. 
  • It makes your mind darker and darker
  • It is self-love
  • After viewing porn, it brings a sense of shame
  • It is addictive (as obvious as that sounds) 
Generational Curses

Sexual sin not only affects YOU but it affects generations after you. For example, when a father is absent from the home, it is often the case that the son will do the same thing OR the daughter has issues trusting men in future due to that alone. OR if a mother drinks during her pregnancy, it is a well known fact that the mother's child will be more prone to alcohol.

I once read a story about a man who ruined the generations after him due to his sexual sin. This man was prone to LUST and had fallen for a woman who was one of his soldier's wives. He fell for her, she fell pregnant and when he found out she was pregnant, he did his best to kill her husband. By now, you should know that this is the story of David and Bathsheba.

Well, David's children were a MESS after that. Yes, David was a man after God's own heart but due to his sin, his family was a mess.

Let's take them in turn:

Amnon - this is one guy who fell in love with his sister, Tamar. Because of his selfish desires, he ended up raping her
Absolom - this is the one guy who slept with one of his father's prostitutes.
Adonijah - he requested one of the young maidens who took care of David to sleep with him
Solomon - well, you know about him. He had 700 wives and 300 concubines, just like his father went after all these women. 

All this was due to David's lust - your purity is especially important, especially to your future children.

How to FIGHT against LUST?
1 Corinthians 6:18 - the Lord tells us to FLEE from sexual immorality. Remember the story of Joseph and Portiphar's wife? Well, this woman constantly tried to get Joseph to sleep with her and he literally FLED.Avoid movies with nudity or anything that will cause you to fall.

Job 31:1 - Job made a covenant with his eyes to 'not look on a woman lustfully'. You have to train yourself, especially the men. Be baptised in the Spirit of holiness. Ask for more of the Holy Spirit. The blood is on our hands. Ensure that you work on your salvation with fear and trembling.

Enjoy your moth of August!

God bless.