I think it s fair to say that all of us reading this have been hurt, one way or another. Or are hurting. Or will be hurt. It is inevitable. Even in the laughter and the smiling you see in people at work, in church or in families and within your friends.
- People facing rejection from loved ones - for example, those who were adopted may feel rejection from a young age. They were not loved by their parents and they cannot understand why, so they feel that they have to seek that love from others.
- Parents - those parents of children who have rejected their counsel and their rules
- Those facing illnesses (cancer, etc)
- Those who are going through break-ups - this can be boyfriends, girlfriends, going through a divorce
- Those who have been looking for jobs for weeks, months, years but can't seem to get through to one
Everybody hurts. Everybody carries his or her own burden of pain. However, you have to know that there is NO physical cure. People cannot shut down the fears. Even the best of friends. Only God can shut down the feelings of loneliness and discontentment and failure.
A broken heart can cause the most excruciating pain in the world. A heartbreak is a wound that is both physical and spiritual. Yes, your friends and family can ease the pain through laughter but the pain somehow seems worse at night, when you're all alone, surrounded by nobody but your own thoughts.
There is the old saying...time heals everything. That is not true. Time only seems to magnify the pain in your heart. If your heart is so open and trusting...you seem to be wounded even more. But some people are so hard hearted, strong shelled and are too proud and self-centred to allow anybody to make them suffer. There is a cure.
Sometimes, when I read the Old testament, I find a common thread. It is almost like a romantic story. God pursues His people, they reject Him and turn to less worthy things. Idols. But He keeps loving them anyway. Time after time after time, He does whatever it takes to win them back. If this happened to me, I don't know if I could live. God is long-suffering. He loves His people and it hurts Him to see them in pain.
The Cure (With Tips)
- Stop trying to figure out HOW and WHY you're hurt
I think as humans...we try to figure out why something has happened. We try to fix things. You may be right or wrong but you have to be willing to trust God and His mysteries. My cousin always tells me that one day...you will probably be thanking God about why your heart was broken and why certain things did not work out the way YOU wanted them to. You will find yourself thanking God because He is probably protecting you from something you do not even know about and cannot see.
1 Peter 4:12-13 - "Dear friends, do not be surprised at the fiery ordeal that has come on you to test you, as though something strange were happening to you. But rejoice inasmuch as you participate in the sufferings of Christ, so that you may be overjoyed when His glory is revealed."
Matthew 11:28-30 - "Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light."
2. Remind Yourself - God will not PUT TOO MUCH ON YOU
Just remember that God is NOT behind your pain. He is not disciplining you. Yes, He chastens us but only for a season...and this is not to hurt us. It's sort of like being grounded for doing something wrong. He isn't the author of confusion. God watches over us and He is always on time. He will not allow you to drown in your tears.
Psalm 30:5 - "For His anger lasts only a moment, but His favour lasts a lifetime. Weeping may last through the night but joy comes with the morning."
3. Weep & Give It To God
The disciples (one being Peter) wept and gave their burdens to God. Peter in particular was hurt after denying the Son of God. He felt guilty because of this. Jesus also wept and constantly prayed when he felt that he had too much to bear. I know He was God in flesh, but He was still human.
Psalm 51:17 - "The sacrifice You desire is a broken spirit. You will not reject a broken and repentant heart, Oh God."
4. You Will Survive
Life goes on. You can bear so much with God helping you. Joy is rejoicing with the Lord no matter what you go through. You may be feeling rejected and abandoned and weak, but God is still God.
Throughout it all, remember that no weapon formed against you will prosper (Isaiah 54:17).
I don't know what you are going through. But if you feel like you're broken, lonely, discontent, angry...whatever it is, do not forget that you are fearfully and you are wonderfully made. You share God's heart, His character, you were made in His image. He has had his share of a broken heart. I'm sure He feels pain too. Pain and rejection because His people have wondered and left Him. We follow our own rules, our own ways and our own paths without even consulting Him.
Oh and don't forget...hard times do not last forever.
Romans 8:18 - "I consider that what we suffer at this present time cannot be compared at all with the glory that is going to be revealed to us."
Have a prosperous, blessed and prayerful new year & month.
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